500 Days Lesson#5: The Art of Letting Go

I am not an expert at this letting go thing. No, don't even think about it for one bit. But this is the only topic I could think of and seems to be fitting to be the last article I'd write relating about the 500 Days of Summer movie.

It must be 5. Aside from the fact that 500 begins with 5, 5 is my favorite number as well. And the topic must be something to do with closure. Closure with a positive look.

I called it an art for letting go obviously will never be considered as science. After all, there's no basic formula on how to let go. What might have worked for me might not work for you.

From the movie, whenever Tom's friends and sister will urge him to move on, to forget about Summer, he'd always say No, he can't. And of course friends will always think of all those soothing words like there's still a lot of fish in the sea and that it's not the first ever break up he had. But naturally, just like any broken person, Tom was obstinate to accept those facts. Those aren't fish. They're guppies. No, she is different. I can't forget her cause She is Summer.

True isn't it? Personally, I've been on that stage. Memory is such a powerful thing. You would feel like you will never get over the one who broke your heart or your life can't go on without them. Hanging on is such a natural thing to do.

I remembered writing an article that's somehow related to this. From that article I pointed out that there are two kinds of people when it comes to love. One would be the type that falls in love over and over again and the other type would be the one that can only seem to do it once. But the more I get to understand IT, the more I realize that there's one truth about it: You can do IT over and over again.

For falling love is like a force of nature --- it can not be predicted....and although sometimes you can foresee it, it can not be stopped. But most of all, it destroys only to always start something new.

True, we can be destroyed so many times. But always, all the time, something new begins.

I know it's more romantic to say that in our lifetime we only have one great love. Often times, that's true as well. We'd only have one great love. But another truth is, no matter how great that love is, it doesn't necessarily mean it's also the right one or we'd end up with that person.

Most days of the year are unremarkable. They begin, and they end, with no lasting memories made in between. Most days have no impact on the course of a life. May 23rd was a Wednesday.

May 23. What a coincidence. Of all dates we got 523.

But anyway, just remember that just like what happened to Tom, we have to realize that after Summer there's Autumn.